Showing posts with label empty nest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label empty nest. Show all posts

The Slide: My thoughts on motherhood, graduation, and empty nests

Note to anyone who stumbles upon this: Often, I process my feelings best through writing. This is one of those times. Not a head-tilt, not a lesson, just what's going on for me right now. I think/hope some moms and/or new empty-nesters might relate. 












I’ve climbed the ladder of the world’s tallest slide!

18 years of ascension, with my son by my side.

 

Up, up, up!

 

18 years of me:

 

  • Loving

  • Teaching

  • Guiding

  • Supporting

  • Protecting

  • Championing and

  • Mom-ing

 

my son. 💕

 

At his high school graduation this past Friday, together we reached the top of the ladder. It was a wonderful, worthy climb!

 

And the next few months, the last I have with him as a resident in my home, SWOOSH! Together down the slide, we’ll go.

 

When we reach the bottom,

he

will

FLY.

 

And I will savor every moment with him until then.

 

I will cherish:

 

  • Hearing his ragtime piano playing throughout the house

  • Watching the final seasons of Mad Men with him in the evenings

  • Listening to his brilliant brain as he educates me about all the things that fascinate him

  • Traveling to the City and seeing the museums through his eyes

  • Saying good night to each other in our own silly way as we pass by each other’s rooms

  • Making his favorite blueberry pancakes for breakfast

  • Even doing his laundry and cleaning up after him

 

All of it.

 

Down, down we’ll go until the day that he takes flight into the next fabulous phase of his life, the moment we’ve been preparing for all this time—when he heads off in the world toward his next adventure, independent of me.

 

Pride doesn’t capture the magnitude of the feelings I have. I can hardly wait to see what’s next for him. He will not only fly, but he will SOAR!

 

In an unanticipated turn of events, I will fly too.

 

Upon his departure, I will be living on my own for the first time in my life.

I will spread my wings and go

 

up, up, up...I’ll fly as high as I can!

 

All the stronger, better, and more inspired

 

Because I am his mom. ❤️


Head Tilt #87: The Next Best Things

 



There's something good coming on the horizon.

In a recent episode of Glennon Doyle's podcast, We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon addressed a question a 19-year-old college freshman asked. Before answering his question, though, she acknowledged his stage of life and recounted what her mom told her son before he left for college. She said,

 

“Everyone’s going to tell you that this is the best year of your life and to enjoy it. And you just do not listen to that. That is NOT TRUE.”


With love and a dose of reality, Glennon continued to say that freshman year is hard... and confusing... and it’s almost impossible to find your grip...

 And with a laugh, she added that so is every other year of life!

 

When we set ourselves up with the pressure of “this is going to be the best,” we pave the path for great disappointment if it isn’t.

 

I played the podcast for my son, and he said that he’d heard that high school was supposed to be the best time of his life.

 

 If he believed that, can you imagine the trepidation he might feel about graduation this week? The best part of his life is soon to be behind him... and he’s only 18!

 

As my youngest reaches this huge milestone, I reach another—the impending “empty nest” that awaits me this fall. I accept that some of the best parts of my life are behind me, but I am confident new “bests” await. With enough agency and imagination, I will create them. I don’t even know what they might be, but the anticipation of what’s possible helps me move forward.


Einstein said,

"Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions."

Today I am excited about my life's coming attractions and optimistically imagining my next best things.

I trust you are looking forward to yours, too. 🌞