Head Tilt #82: PREP: The Goldilocks method for answering questions

I am sure the three bears had many questions for Goldilocks. 


I have a question for you...

Are you good at answering questions on the spot?

 

By good, can you answer the question in a polished yet succinct way that is easy for others to understand?


Do you know how much of an answer is too little, too much, or just right?

 

Consider these scenarios:

 

 

Scenario #1: Too much

In a board meeting, a board member asked a department VP for justification on a budget increase request. The VP’s answer, though accurate and understandable to him, was verbose and filled with technical jargon. The board member was visibly frustrated and curtly asked the VP to “bottom line it.”

 

Ouch.

 

Scenario #2: Too little

In a virtual training, colleagues from the Human Resources department energetically debated the effectiveness of employee engagement surveys. When one quieter team member was asked her opinion, she said, “They just don’t work.” Probed for more information, she quipped, “They are a waste of our time and the employee’s time.” She retreated to her quiet disposition, and the meeting continued.

 

Uh-Oh.

 

Scenario #3: Just right

In an interview, a candidate was asked which company value she identified with the most. She paused for a second and then answered,

 

“Innovation. Because I thrive on creativity and fresh perspectives, I resonate most with your company's commitment to innovation. For example, I’ve read about your brainstorming sessions where people from different levels and departments come together as a diverse think-tank of sorts. I would love to be a part of a company that not only talks about innovating but also creates situations for it to thrive.”  

 

            NAILED IT!

 

I’ve coached all three people in the scenarios above to use the PREP framework to answer questions. It's simple and widely used (i.e., it’s been around for years) and allows

 

PREP is the Goldilocks of responses ☀️

 

Point:         Lead with your bottom line.

Reason:     Give a reason or two to support your point.

Example:   Be specific with an example that expands upon your point and/or reason.

Point:         Restate your point.

 

The person in Scenario #3 did just that.

 

Question: With which of our company values do you identify?

Answer:


Point: Innovation.

Reason:  Because I thrive on creativity and fresh perspectives, I resonate most with your company’s commitment to innovation.

Example: For example, I’ve read about your brainstorming sessions where people from different levels and departments come together as a diverse think-tank.

Point: I would love to be a part of a company that not only talks about innovating but also creates situations for innovation to thrive.” 

 

Now, the one who is asking the question, in this case, the interviewer, can ask more questions based on that answer.

 

When asked the budget question again, the VP could say something like,


Point: We are seeking a budget increase of $XXX, which can look daunting at first glance.

Reason: Still, the plans we have to update and improve will make X Y Z more efficient and ultimately save the company money in the long run. 

Example: So and so is working on _______ to ____ and needs ______.

Point: A budget increase of XXX will ensure our success.

 

And then, board members can ask for elaboration or clarification on this answer.

 

If asked to participate in a conversation she has an opinion on but doesn’t know how to articulate it, the team member can say,

 

Point: No, I don’t think the engagement surveys work.

Reason: Employees have complained that not only are they a waste of time to complete, but they don’t see any changes happening as a result.

Example: In 2022's survey, scores were low, and at the end of 2023, they were even lower, despite all our efforts.

Point: I think there is a better way to measure and increase engagement, but I am not sure what it is.

 

From there, team members can ask questions or piggyback on her answers.

 

P-R-E-P


Point-Reason-Example-Point


As with any communication tip, use it as a handrail, not handcuffs. For example, sometimes the reason and example conflate, making the acronym PEP.

 

Try it and let me know if you get the budget increase, are recognized for your thoughtful contributions to the conversation, or get the job! 😉








 

Head Tilt #88: Don't Worry, Be Imaginative


Signs, signs, everywhere signs. This gem is at a little store less than a mile from my home. I drive by it every day. It's not wrong: Worry certainly is a misuse of imagination!

To re-route worry, we can imagine a better outcome and do the next right thing. Here are some examples of moving from wasteful worry to positive possibilities. 


🍋 Are you worried about that big presentation to the executive team that's coming up?

💡 Imagine the results of a job so well done that they write songs about you! Consult a colleague, practice your speech, or review your notes. Do something to take a step toward making that positive possibility a reality.


🍋 Are you worried about your appearance as we slide into shorts and swimsuit season?

💡 Imagine how good you'll feel when you make peace with yourself, stop caring what others think, or go shopping and find something that you feel sensational in! Do something to take a step toward making that positive possibility a reality.


🍋 Are you worried about your future now that your youngest has graduated and is off to college? (Oh, wait, is that just me?)

💡 Imagine a future so bright you have to wear a cute sunhat. Take a class, nurture your network, feed your friendships, and look inward as much as outward. Dream a bigger dream and do something to take a step toward making that positive possibility a reality.


What can you do right now to re-route the energy you're using to worry toward a brighter vision of what's possible?

Whatever it is, you know I am here, wearing a cute sunhat and cheering you on! 

PSA for People Who Love Dogs

See this lovely stick? It's a nice one, right?

Smooth sides, just the right size for throwing. Great for playing fetch with your favorite canine.


I'll sell it to you for the same price I got it...


$𝟰𝟵𝟭.𝟳𝟱


That was the vet bill after this nefarious Stick-in-Disguise-as-a-Fun-Dog-Toy tried to impale my dog Indie's throat when she caught it at the park.


The Death Dart ricocheted off the ground and went right into Indie's big yap, aiming to exit through the back of her neck.


Luckily, the Stickinator didn't succeed.


Though it didn't complete its malicious mission, yesterday's emergency drop-off and subsequent all-day stay at our veterinarian's office proved that the Wooden Weapon left a small tear in Indie's throat. She'll heal on her own, thank goodness, and our vet said we're lucky the Sinister Stick didn't slice Indie's trachea or vocal cords-- both of which she's seen in her practice several times. 😳


I kicked myself because I'd heard not to throw sticks for dogs, but whatever. I ignorantly ignored the warnings. Never again. As if I needed more proof, a quick Google search of "Is it okay to throw a stick for my dog" yielded 58 million results, the first few pages filled with emphatic NOs (all within .64 seconds).


I kicked myself again because I'd also been meaning to buy pet insurance. Whatever. Now my desk is covered with pamphlets from different providers.


Indie is feeling a bit better today. Poor baby, I can tell she's still in pain, and her energy is not near her manic Belgian Malinois standard. Still, she seems somewhat comforted by the pain med, soft food, and extra attention. ❤️


Now that I've learned my lesson, I'm hoping other dog owners can learn from my mistake.


Stay safe out there. Buy rubber or plastic stick toys or soft frisbees if you have a dog who loves to fetch. Consider pet insurance, too.


And don't be fooled by seemingly innocent sticks. I know a big beach bonfire this one will be joining tonight. 🔥🔥


The Birthday Post: Be the Valedictorian of Your Life


As a teaching associate (TA) in graduate school long ago, I was taught to view the students in my classroom as active participants in the learning process, not passive recipients of the lessons from the lectern. 

It’s a lens I’ve used to guide my course design for the past 25 years: I commit to my trainees’ growth, giving them ample opportunities to take things beyond the training room.

In the school of my life, where I am not the teacher, but the student, I use the same lens. I strive to be an active participant in my learning process, not a passive recipient of life’s syllabus. Lately, I am sitting front-row, notebook open, pencil sharpened, alert, and ready to learn. I don't always love the curriculum, but I try to attend class daily. 

Life’s lessons are taught by interactions with colleagues, customers, friends, and family. Instructional methods include conflict, challenge, wins, and losses. Some of the most powerful lessons come through pain.

If I am not being a good student, it’s all for nothing. My growth plateaus and I am obligated to re-enroll until I ace the course. 

Uh-uh. Not me. I know better. 

Here are my top tips for being at the top of the class in the school of life: 

1. Stay present. Remember the smartest kids in grade school? They always sat in the front of the class, with perfect posture, eyes fixed on the teacher, hands folded on their desks. They kind of bugged me, but they knew how to learn! Be like them. Remove the auto-pilot feature on your internal dashboard and commit to increasing your awareness and, in turn, your options. Build a chasm between stimulus and response. Breathe. Be. Learn. 

2. Stay curious. Ask good questions. Start sentences with what and how. Instead of jumping to conclusions, dance toward discovery. Read up. Take the personality quizzes. Enroll in all the classes. Know that you know a lot, but that knowledge is an infinite resource to compound.

3. Reflect.  Like a good student reviews their notes, review your day. Pair reflection with the curiosity mentioned above. What did you do well? Keep doing that! What requires a do-over? Do that! Remember that uncomfortable interaction with your manager in the one-on-one meeting? Revisit that. What happened? What did you learn? What could you have done differently? What will you do differently going forward? When paired with a plan, hindsight can be a great guru.

4. Regard those who annoy, harm, or betray you as your special guest lecturers. That leader or friend who is extra tough on you... What are they teaching you? Perhaps it’s a lesson on what NOT to do. The person who stole your thunder on the big project? They are giving you an opportunity to perfect your assertiveness skills and stand up for your worth. That one who broke your heart? They are teaching you how to heal, how to be stronger, and how to be whole on your own. Let others' wrongs illuminate your rights. 

Choose to be the valedictorian of your life. You got this. 🎓🎉

What is life teaching you today?


About that photo of me... I stole-borrowed my son's graduation garb for the pic…He doesn't know. 🤫